Real people. Real agreements. Real change.

Fractured relationships with his kids, his parents and his siblings, who were also his business partners. A marriage in crisis and a business without traction.

Learning that his expectations of others left him resentful, and that he could take ownership without living in shame.

“My business has turned around. We are profitable and we have all kinds of opportunities for accelerated growth.” His relationships with his children are “perhaps stronger than they've ever been.”

The early days of an ugly divorce, no sense of direction, and a lifetime of relationships built on drama.

In a group session on the Drama Triangle, Tom realized he'd spent most of his life as the Rescuer.

A healthy, loving relationship that lives “the majority of the time in the much healthier green triangle.” “I'm a much better, kinder, simpler version of myself.”

Therapy, self-help books and anger he couldn't get to the root of.

Jamie stopped a rehearsed victim story 30 seconds in. Then came the assignment to write down his 25 Longings, which Brent avoided for weeks.

“I catch myself when I run the patterns… I've developed a lot more of a secure attachment with myself.”

A successful business, a lot of money, and no happiness.

A campfire conversation with Jamie on a fishing trip in Alaska.

Four years of coaching and a men's group later, “I am a drastically different human being today.”

50, newly divorced after 30 years, and building a career from scratch while living from duty and “shoulds.”

The Longing exercise, and Jamie's correction: you don't have to build a career. You get to.

“He's given me an entire toolbox of skills that work together seamlessly.”

Fear from past relationships, fear of the wrong decision, and a perfectionism that kept him asking others for permission.

Newly married, a new dad, and making agreements “instead of covering for people or quietly holding expectations they never agreed to.”